You've Just Experienced a Spirit; Now What?
You saw a ghost, had an intense dream or heard a disembodied voice. What are you supposed to do now?
I am choosing not to use the term ‘spiritual experience’ because, whilst it is accurate, it is very different to feel the holiness in a church compared to seeing a dead person in your bedroom.
There is no other feeling quite like the first time it happens, especially because it tends to be over quite quickly.
The first thought is always ‘what!?’.
Shock, awe then nnnnoooooooo, really!? why me? Maybe I made it up? Maybe it’s because of that movie the other night?
But everything in your soul is settled. The human side of you is excited, maybe a little trepidation if it was a creature rather than the dead, but your soul tells you this is normal. You just have to listen to it.
So what are you supposed to do now?
Believe it
Do not gaslight yourself - that is your deadbeat ex-boyfriends job, let’s leave him to it. He is the expert after all.
When you have an experience it is truly like the world stands still. You stop breathing, your heart stops pumping and you will remember it for the rest of your life, so please believe it.
It doesn’t matter if what you are seeing is a character from a film. Spirits are simply energy so if you saw something from Labyrinth, True Blood or one of the bajillion Thor movies they are simply giving you a clue as to what they are.
Which is great news because it means they are for the long term.
Write it Down
As much detail as possible including how you felt, the date, the time, where, what was said, their expression, clothing, colours, could you see feet, etc.
The same goes for a dream; get as much detail as possible.
It’s also really important for you to write down your thoughts at the time and afterwards, as they will often influence these if you are heading in the wrong direction (dismissing the experience).
Writing it down somewhere safe will ensure you can research properly, that your psychology doesn’t alter things to fit in with preexisting scripts and if you begin to doubt, you can read back through it and it almost places you back there. Feeling those things and seeing them again.
Be Careful Who You Tell
From my experience - men will deny it happened, women will become envious so will dismiss it. You do not need either of these responses.
You know how it is, sometimes you tell those closet to you about a goal you have; losing weight, new job, new girlfriend, moving to a different country, and they will poo-poo it because they don’t want you to change. Or they can’t do it so you shouldn’t either.
The same will happen here.
In all countries you also have the issue of how they were raised; if you admit to seeing a ghost to a friend from a religious household you may never see them again.
You must protect this sacred event. It was all for you.
Any Strange Family Members?
These gifts run down the Matriarchal line so it is likely you have a ‘weird’ grandmother or an Aunt who everyone jokes about being a little ‘cuckoo’.
If you come from a family that isn’t white, you are likely to find there are stories that run through your ancestry. It is absolutely worth asking one of your more open minded elders if there are any strange stories in the family.
Many will light up at being given the chance to tell you about what they used to see when they were back on their ancestral land, or that their Cousin saw things all the time and they used to take bets on if she would get it right.
You can decide if you want to tell them what has happened but please judge carefully. If you do not, the stories you hear may provide vital clues on where to go from here at least.
But the best case scenario, is a family member takes you under their wing to learn the ways of your family.
Research
So…you have your written account, you have no family to ask - it doesn’t matter.
You take that information and search the internet to see what you can find. If you use AI you are looking at your information through the lens of a sweaty white guy who has only read about spirits, so a Google search the old fashioned way paying attention to blogs especially.
The people who work with the spirits.
You will generally find a trail of information that leads you somewhere and you will get a ‘feeling’ when you have found the right spirit. Sometimes a few details might be off, but you will know.
If you simply have a random dead person - there will not be a lot to research. However if he has a top hat and skull face, or a fedora and a cigarette, there most definitely it.
Normal dead people TEND to appear as they were in real life - skull faces are kept for those who have elevated.
Development
Some people have one experience of spirit and never follow it up. It is not the spirit’s job to nag you into taking control of your gifts - they simply show you something within you.
So what are you going to do?
If you want to have conversations with your spirits and take control of your fate, I suggest developing with someone who has been on a path for a long time, and knows exactly what they are doing.
NB: Just because they are a ‘spiritual’ person does not make them a good person, so follow your instinct and never cross your own boundaries.
If you have a group close to you, before you join, it is worth asking how they protect the group sessions and what their expectations are of you. When you visit for the first time, understand that you would be an asset to them, you are vetting them as much as they are vetting you.
If you prefer to dive right in contact us and we can discuss the 6 - 8 week intensive where we find out exactly who your spirits are, before teaching you protection, cleansing, the tools of your path and how to communicate with them whenever you choose.
These sessions are 1-2-1 so the focus is solely on ensuring you feel comfortable and confident, whilst passing on the messages your spirits want to give throughout the process.
Everyone learns differently, so whether you decide to stay solitary and teach yourself (protection before anything please), go to a group or come and see us, please just follow the breadcrumbs.
Don’t let the gifts you have go to waste - you matter and are more important than you know.
~ Malika
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